http://healthland.time.com/2011/06/02/children-of-divorce-struggle-more-with-math-and-social-skills/
Summary: According to a report in the American Sociological Review, children of divorced parents tend to have poorer math and interpersonal social skills. According of Hyun Sik Kim of the University of Wisconsin-Madison, they tend to have difficulty creating and keeping friendships, expressing their feelings, being sensitive to others, and getting along with people who are different. Although the problems don't get worse after the divorce, they do not get better. Children start struggling once the divorce begins. Kim studied 3,585 children from kindergarten to the fifth grade and focuses on the 142 children who's parents divorced between first and third grade. He noticed that children of divorce scored 12% lower then their peers in standardized math tests.
5W's:
Who: Children
What: Are doing poorly in math and in social skills
When: According to a study published Thursday
Where: In America
Why: Their parents got a divorce
Conclusion:
Language Arts: Sin: A Godless society, blinded by sin rebels against God and arrives at false conclusions.
With the divorce rate around 50% in America alone, it shows that people do not think that marriage is a sacred union. This society, blinded by sin, tells us it is ok for men to look at porn and for women to fantasize about other men while still married. This society tells us it is ok to quit when a marriage isn't "fun anymore." Marriage is to easy (drive-thru wedding chapels). Divorce is to easy (Look at cheesy law firm billboards and TV commericals).
I think part of the reason why people get divorced is because it doesn't end up "happily ever after" like it does in the movies. Ever since girls are little, they are force fed the lie that one day, Prince Charming will magically appear, kiss them, and take away all their problems. (For this reason, I hate Disney and will refuse to let my daughter watch all those princess movies) No one tells us that marriage is work, hard work, but worth it in the end.
The thing about divorce is that it effects children the most. As a child of divorced parents, I can tell you first hand how heart breaking it is. During that period of my life, I was actually suicidal.
But in the end, I'm blessed. This study does not apply to me. Yes, my parents are divorced, but math is probably one of my best subjects. I don't think I struggle with social skills, in fact, I always try to encourage people and make them happy. I have two parents who love and provide for me. God has provided for me.
Yes, I do want them back together, but I know it is not possible. Through this horrible event in my life however, I learned. I'm learning what to do and what not to do so that when I get married, I stay with my husband, not just for the kids, but because God wills it.
In Ephesians 5, Paul tells women to submit to their husbands and husbands to love their wives. God created marriage as seen through Adam and Eve.
Studies like these show us what happens when we walk off of God's perfect plan. When we sin, we effect everyone.
It's time to start taking marriage seriously and try to "work it out."
